Aretha Franklin said it best R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I hope that everyone had a great weekend and is ready to get back into the swing of things this week to accomplish more amazing results. This newsletter is going to be dedicated to Frank DiCocco, a dear friend, who died this past week. This was a 29 year old man who had so much passion for wanting to inspire, engage, and uplift individuals. His mission was to bring the best out in others and to encourage them to become the best that they can be. This young man had a gift that ended way too soon, but today I’m going to share some of his talents with you. This message is going to focus on the word RESPECT, something people often lack.

I don’t know about you friend, but I can’t tell you the numerous amounts of times I come across individuals who have little respect for those around them. Quick example. The other day I had to get gas, and as I pulled up to the pump there was a car in front of me. The guy didn’t pull up far enough so I could reach the pump I needed. When I got out of the car, he saw that I wasn’t close enough to the pump, and could have easily pulled up just a little so I could do the same.  But he didn’t.  He just got out of his car, looked at me, and began to get what he needed.  As long as he got what he wanted, he didn’t seem to care that I had to wait until he was finished to pull up to the second pump.

One thing that I do know there is that what you hand out will come back to you and sometimes even tenfold!   I treat people the way I want to be treated. It’s called “The Golden Rule.”  Another example. Yesterday, I had the privilege of setting up a booth at the March of Dimes event at a local banquet hall. The executive chef came out and saw my table and said “do you happen to specialize in staffing of companies?” I said, “Yes. What can I help you with?” He said,” I’m looking for help in staffing my kitchen because my staff right now doesn’t have any customer service skills.” I said,” I’d be more than happy to help you with that.” I began to ask him questions. I asked,” Chef why don’t you show me some of the great talents you have so I know what type of people to send your way.”  We had a wonderful conversation. Forty minutes later there were two mouth watering entrees, one for me and one for my partner.  One was salmon glazed in a teriyaki sauce and veggies; the other cod fish, asparagus, string beans, and cuscus with calamari olives in a olive oil sauce. They were so amazingly good I was in awe. Then, to top it off, he brought out a slice of chocolate fudge mousse cake with a side of glazed fried bananas. Just when I thought everything was finished, he then surprised me yet again with two canolies.  All this food was compliments of the chef. Why? It was due to honor and respect. He appreciated the help I was able to offer him.  I helped him because it was the right thing to do.  I didn’t think he was going to bring me anything.   I will teach you the principles I used to help someone and engage them vs using manipulation to only get what you want.

Being a REAL man/woman means treating all people with respect and dignity, without expectation. It means understanding that everyone is worthy of respect, and that all people deserve to be treated respectfully. A REAL man shows respect to all people, at all times in all ways…. without expectation.

 

Respect is all about treating people right: regardless of who they are, what they say, or how they act. Respect is about treating others the way you would want to be treated, at tall times and in all situations. Being respectful means extending to others the patience, courtesy, kindness and politeness that you, yourself, would want to receive.

All people are entitled to be treated with respect. All people inherently possess basic human dignity, and that dignity is to be honored at all times by respectful treatment.  Everyone has the spirit of divinity in them-including one’s self-and therefore, we should regard everyone in such a way. Each person is a sacred and divine being including one’s self-and therefore, we should treat everyone as such.

 How you treat others directly and indirectly affects the way that you are treated in return.  It determines the perception they have of you, and ultimately, the manner in which they treat you.

How you treat other people directly influences those peoples’ moods and mental states, which directly influences what they say and how they say it, as well as the actions and behaviors they direct at others.  Therefore, always be mindful of the way you act toward others. Be careful to always treat others with respect, patience, and civility. Because ultimately, the way you treat others will, to a large degree, determine, the way that they treat you in return.

Treat people the best way you can treat them, and treat everyone the way you’d want to be treated. Whenever you are speaking with, spending time with, or dealing with another person, keep in mind that the way you treat that person is most likely the way that they will treat you in return.

Not sure what I mean? Think of it as bouncing a ball against a wall. When you throw a ball against a wall, it will come back to you in a similar manner in which you first threw it. If you throw the ball hard, it will come back at you hard. If you throw it softly, it will bounce back at you softly. If you throw the ball with some spin on it, it will come back to you with some spin on it.

Ultimately, the way you throw the ball will dictate the way that it comes back to you. How you toss the ball will determine how it bounces and returns to you. And so it is with the attitudes and behaviors you exhibit towards others.

Much of what you think, say and do will be returned to you through what other people think, say, and do. Everything that you send out into the lives of others will come back into your own; and everything that you put into the world around you will return back to you as well. This is called the law of reaping and sowing.

You have a large degree of influence over the way that others treat you. If you are initiating the conversation or interaction, then being kind, calm and respectful will likely produce those same behaviors in the other person. If they initiate the conversation and they do not do so in a respectful or kind way, often by reacting calmly and by being nice to them, you greatly increase the chances that they will change their approach and begin speaking and acting more along the lines of the way you are.

 

Friends, I hope that these simple, yet effective, tools that Frank used in his own life will help you as well. Please share this with others as this approach can help make the world a more beautiful place. I’d love to hear your comments over on my facebook page www.facebook.com/marketingwithcourtney

Have a blessed week.

With you all the way,

Courtney